Written by Frederica
It’s traditional! Once that was a common phrase. But what is tradition? How do you define tradition? Are traditions important?
Most cultures have traditions. Some, particularly with religious bias, appear to pay more fervent attention to their traditions than others. So one might infer that traditions make us what we are both nationally and culturally.
In ‘The Fiddler On The Roof’, Topol the milkman is a resolute supporter of ‘tradition’ For him, tradition was an immutable part of life. Rich or poor, tradition mattered greatly. To depart from tradition was, for him, akin to tearing his known world apart.
Events of the last year and a half have swept away many of our own traditions. It is possible that some of them will never return. Or if they do, it will not be in the way we remember them. I have been musing over and mourning the loss of some of the traditions that enriched life for me, especially in the years I was growing up. The stability engendered by ‘traditions’ formed a sort of bedrock on which to base one’s life.
Top of my list – and maybe for many others also – is Christmas. The carol services and midnight mass (Eucharist). The nativity plays enacted year on year by children in primary schools. The joy of seeing those little ones illustrating the Christmas message. Playing their parts with pride while at the same time learning that most essential part of Christian history.
Christmas is for children they only seem to know
The magic and the meaning that the Christ Child’s birth bestows
And so in each and every year The story of that stable is retold
By children in the simplest way – the baby born for them anew
And while they act their precious parts
The hearts of those who watch with pride expand with joy and wonder
For their innocence and trust
On a lighter note the traditional Christmas pantomime has always been an event providing the chance to let off steam with the children. Hooting at the villain and cheering the hero/heroine!
Easter brings the culmination of the Christian story following the, once solemnly observed, period of Lent. I cannot be the only one to remember having a ‘lenten box’ in the home in which one put monetary offerings for charity. Easter eggs for the children and the traditional roast lamb for Easter Sunday with a family gathering was an accepted event.
More formal traditions of a National nature include The Trooping of the Colour on the Queen’s Birthday Parade. The State Opening of Parliament. Remembrance Sunday. St George’s Day Parades – with marching bands and troops of military personnel; local dignitaries; cubs; scouts; brownies; girl guides along with cadets from the services and voluntary organisations. Each of these events brought many thousands of people onto the streets of London and towns up and down the Country, to celebrate the most essential of our National traditions. The camaraderie and national pride in our heritage that these events engendered has always been cherished in the hearts of us all.
There is a long list of other traditional events, including ‘The Last Night of the Proms’ – that was always a popular event amongst those patriotic souls who relished the opportunity to display their ‘love of Country and tradition’. They sang Rule Britannia; Jerusalem; Land of Hope and Glory – with gusto and fervour whilst waving the National Flag along with those of the individual countries that make up The Union. It has always irked me to see the (vulgarly named) ‘star spangled sphincter’ creeping in, insidiously, and waved more and more stridently in recent times into this most hallowed of National events!
New Year’s Eve and its most popular venue Trafalgar Square – bringing together Britons and foreigners alike in joyful celebration of a hopeful year to come – became (in my eyes) almost the modern equivalent of the solstice celebrations enacted over millennia at Stonehenge. Now there was a tradition that stood the test of time!
Guy Fawkes night with – in my day – small home celebrations in the garden with a bonfire, a homemade guy with a mask bought from the same local shop where we purchased our fireworks. I remember having a fireworks savings card in the local shop to which we added pennies and sixpences in the run up to the big day. Those savings were exchanged on the day before the event for a selection of fireworks on display in open boxes – probably with no thought of fire regulations in those days!. Big communal displays were few and far between in my childhood. Father was the fireworks setter-offer in our house!
Pubs are another ‘tradition’. Often hotbeds of potentially seditious but largely ‘hot air’ discussions about the rights and wrongs of the ‘world-in-general’. They provided for many years on an informal basis the opportunity to meet and associate with others in the community, who might not fall into the ‘close friends’ bracket. Then there are: Jumble Sales (more recently – boot fairs); Fun Fairs; Seaside Amusement Arcades; Boat trips; Youth clubs; Dances, in village halls and assembly rooms. The list goes on …
But it seems to me that we are being actively ‘encouraged’ to abandon our traditions and to live less expansive lives with ever fewer contacts with other people. It has been inexorably advancing year on year (often under the guise of ‘elf ‘n’ safety’) but seems to have become even more insidious over the past eighteen months using the excuse of COVID.
At the same time we are being surreptitiously obliged to accommodate ‘long held traditions’ that belong to other incoming cultures. The traditions of those people are often, by their very nature, exclusionary to non-believers/participants. Those people appear to be, carefully and inexorably, nurturing and entrenching their ‘traditions’ at the expense of ours.
Already, there are many ‘days of note’ from our history that have been actively ‘airbrushed out’ of consciousness and history: Empire Day; Lady Day; Trafalgar Day – to name but a few. Pageants and Carnivals that were once a feature of most large towns and cities have been effectively squeezed out of existence. The reason often cited for the suppression is ‘cost’.
But I wonder whether in fact there is a much more unpleasant agenda driving the loss of our most cherished ‘Traditions’. With the suppression of history and tradition being actively pursued in our educational institutions, in another generation, many of those I have listed above will have long been forgotten – never to return!
Love the idea of a ‘star-spangled sphincter’, Frederica! Now we’re out we shouldn’t see too many more of these around and I hope that anyone displaying such a banner is persuaded to put it away as quickly as possible.
I know the human body has more than one sphincter but whenever I see the EU flag now I shall think of the sphincter in the bottom half of the body!
Debbie I cannot claim the credit. I picked it up from a commenter on another site a long time ago! It always seemed totally appropriate to me! I’m glad it amused you. X
Commonwealth Day is still on the calendar, but gets little attention. We ought to let all Commonwealth countries know that we do care about them. We are inviting the Commonwealth to Birmingham 28th July to 8th August next year for the Commonwealth Games.
I agree with you botha d will drive against those undermining our tradiions and impress on my children their omportance. But alas the years cannot be stopped and being in my late seventies my fight is nearly over
Sorry, big thumb and small phone do not make for good typing
Bless you Mike! It’s never too late to keep trying (I’ve decided!). I’m no longer a ‘spring chicken’ myself but I made up my mind long ago that I would never give up as long as I have breath and can still use my brain.
I read a quote years ago from a Gunter von Hagens (German anatomist):-
“What we must learn to do in life is to reduce our expectations. We must be able to leave our abilities behind and not let ourselves be disappointed by reality.”
I thought this was the most depressing, defeatist attitude to life and my whole being cried out…… ‘NO’! So I wrote it out and have kept it by me ever since to remind me that there is always something worth striving for!
PS I can’t type well on the phone either!!!
I fully agree with your article Frederica.
Thank you Pauline. I am sure that many of you all have favourite traditions of your own. I am absolutely passionate about keeping traditions alive. In this difficult World, it is more important than ever I think!
The pathetic Jolly so aptly named by Jack Thomas is indeed a pre-curser to some extremely unpleasant things, in my humble opinion. I too believe in tradition and enjoyed your piece very much Frederica. Although born in Wales to a fairly strict Jewish family, we always celebrated the Christian calendar too in keeping with all our friends and neighbours. Even a close Muslim friend in school joined in everything, we just had to be careful what we ate at parties. It was never a problem. The rot set in when Grammar schools were shut down in favour of “all must have prizes” in Comprehensives and the creation of micky mouse subjects in University. Education was the first casualty.
Micky mouse subjects in University Education. You are so right there Lisa.
And come to think about it my grammar school managed perfectly well with a mixture of Jewish, Buddhist, various Christian denominations, agnostic and atheist pupils. Amazing isn’t it seeing as how ‘political correctness’, ‘multiculturalism’, etc. had not been enforced!
Thank you Lisa I am aware that I missed out some traditions from the other parts of the Union. It is wonderful that you have such good memories of religious tolerance and sharing from your life’s experiences. I totally agree with your comment about the closure of Grammar schools. The introduction of comprehensives all but killed off any aspirational instincts in students to value attainment. Bliar finished the job off with his ‘university for all’ drive! But it seems that ‘dumbing down’ was not about making people feel better about themselves. Rather it was the beginning of the ‘conditioning’ process that has led us to this state of supine ignorance and blind acceptance of ‘State control’!
Specially for you!
Love this, thank you Harryagain.
Delightful! Not a blue flag in sight! A genuine thankyou from me!
Hi Frederica, as usual apologies for being a Johnny come lately” to your beautiful article, unfortunately too busy in the garden to attend to my real ‘duty’ of keeping up the fight – against whatever with ID.
However, this posting of here again Harry, proved to be quite uplifting for me, it was gone two am before I could put it down, you see I fell for the side boxes and progressed to other Last Night of the Proms performances, particularly Land of Hope and glory sung with real gusto by Vera Lynn (as an aside I believe something changed with the spirit of this country when she passed away, a thought of as, as along as she is still here we are still capable of muddling through – she’s gone apathy, headless nests and infamy reign – or is that just me, I’d be interested to know if others feel like that)
Anyway, you tube menu offered Winston Churchill’s ‘Fight them on the beaches speech’ and finally it offered a compendium, I suppose you will call it of Ronald Regan’s jokes, what wonderful entertainment,I had never realised how skilful a communicator he was
You’ll appreciate I listened entranced, but also at the same time of our traditions, one being our style of humour, which not only could be used to humble Tyrants ( Regan wanted to learn jokes that the Russian people made about the Communist system under which they lived and had to survive, I believe he felt there was a place for humour in the great affairs of state and used his jokes as such – to good effect I might add).
And so to my tradition of humour, which I believe was endemically national, and which I believe we have unutterably lost.
I suppose ita’s a sort of Music Hall tradition really, even in some ways the comedy of Gilbert and Sullivan were in that tradition, but it was always the smutty innuendo that most people really understood and relished, even if not openly admitted.
I also liked and mourn the loss of ITMA (It’s That Man Again -is that where Harry took………?), but there was Rob Wilton, ” the day war broke out my missus said to me ……….what are you going to do about it?” Opportunity knocks, with that chap who had the sickly smile and folksy manner that revealed for me one of the best comedians ever Les Dawso. Much binding in the marsh with Dickie Murdoch and Kenneth. Horn, Charlie Chester’s own show.
“What do the jungle drums say?
“Down in the jungle living in a tent,
Better than a prefab – no rent”
I could go on forever Frederica, Arthur Askey, Ted Ray, Jimmy Edward, Eric Sykes and Hattiesburg Jaques Albert and the Lion, Stanley Holloway, Alistacir Simm and Marbgaret Rutherford, Max zeal, Max Miller and I must not forget Hancock.
But I think what I am getting at it was usually a warm type of humour, if getting at anybody, done with some charm.
Unfortunately I find much if this modern humour, pointed, often filthy and denigrating people or mass victims.
I’ll leave you with an ex member of UKIP Frank Carson “they don’t tell them like they used to”
E&OE
I give up …
Sorry Viv, thanks for your forbearance, I did get a bit carried away, and even then didn’t answer Fredrica’s question
” Does it matter”. Of course it does
I’m glad she agreed with me on the quality of humour being important and available to all
Most of us couldn’t hide a smile at the old jokes – some very risqué, but some or most of the modern stuff would as they say ” make a sailor blush” and as you know I started my working life at sea – any way many thanks, I promise…………………Oh well not till the next time, you must admit it ‘s a longbtimecsince I last transgressed .
Roger I am glad you enjoyed the article. (Totally understand your commitment to the garden. At least the plants aren’t trying to obliterate us yet. Unlike the politicians!)
I agree with your proposition that British humour – in the way that you describe it – was a timeless tradition that offended nobody because it was not done with malice aforethought, At least in those days we did not have to worry about ‘political correctness’.
Wasnt there a proverb or something that implied that laughter disarms more effectively than the sword! For sure our modern day ‘woke’ adherents are too precious to laugh. They would prefer to frown and criticise simply to show their ‘woke’ credentials. What a sad lot they are!
So many of those you have mentioned are old favourites of mine too. I especially have a fond spot for Albert and the Lion and the wonderful Hancock (Tony NOT Matt!)
Jack my phraseology was off there! I agree with you. I too believe absolutely that there is a very dark agenda and it’s coming down the track like an express train!
“But I wonder whether in fact there is a much more unpleasant agenda”. Indeed there is Frederica; of that I am certain and wonder how much worse it will get with Boris after his jolly at G7.